New Year, New You?


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It’s that time of year where we all start to panic about what we haven’t achieved over the last 12 months and we completely forget everything that we have done!

More often than not, we set unrealistic goals for ourselves and if we deviate from that list, no matter what has happened in our lives to cause that change, we berate, criticise and punish ourselves for having failed!

I see this happen a lot in the fitness industry and have been guilty of it myself on more than one occasion! We are setting ourselves up for failure by creating these ULs (unachievable lists) and it’s time we stopped!

Angry woman in office

Every year I am interviewed by an awesome woman called Liz Dexter ( – We’ve never met, but every year (since 2013) she sends me a list of questions and i answer them to the best of my ability:


  1. What’s your business called? When did you set it up?
  2. What made you decide to set up your own business?
  3. What made you decide to go into this particular business area?
  4. Had you run your own business before?
  5. How did you do it? Did you launch full-time, start off with a part-time or full-time job to keep you going … ?
  6. What do you wish someone had told you before you started?
  7. What would you go back and tell your newly entrepreneurial self?
  8. What do you wish you’d done differently?
  9. What are you glad you did?
  10. What’s your top business tip?
  11. How has it gone since you started? Have you grown, diversified or stayed the same?
  12. Where do you see yourself and your business in a year’s time?
  13. Please give your website address and contact details
  14. Are you happy for me to contact you in a year’s time from posting the interview, to see how you’re doing and conduct another short interview?

I can honestly say that every year I have different goals and every year I never achieve them all! Now this may sound a bit disheartening but bear with me!

The interviews that i do with Liz help to keep me focused, they help me to understand that things happen in life that are out of my control and while I may not tick all of those To Dos off those ULs, I do actually achieve some amazing things that were not featured in my original plan!

Here’s the link to my latest interview:


So, when you come to create that UL after eating too much turkey/mince pies/etc, try not to make them too big or too long!


Remember to include things like ‘be kinder to myself’ or ‘make time for me’ not just ‘lose weight’, the two can sometimes go hand in hand (you may find a fitness class you really enjoy) and you don’t have to carry the pressure of that dreaded UL around with you!

Whatever you end up doing, have an amazing Christmas break and I shall see you on the other side!

Mel Carpenter

I’m Mel C aka The Health Carpenter – I have over 25 years teaching experience in the Dance, Fitness and Martial Arts Industry. I run a successful Dance and Fitness business and I also coach/mentor several Dance & Fitness Instructors, both online and Face-to-Face. I am a normal person just like you – I’ve faced my own weight loss demons and have battled just like you with cravings and lack of enthusiasm. I have two children so I know what its like to have a completely different body shape and feel frustrated! But I’ve also lost that weight, twice and have helped many others to do the same! You’ll see the kinds of things I do through this blog and I’ll also be providing tips on various things such as exercise, recipes, the right kind of attire to wear at class, the topics are endless! You can also ask me a question and I’ll do my best to answer it for you!

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